When things don't go well, who does our fingers point to?

I was in some conversation yesterday and today with different people..... and in both the conversation we talked about when things happened, we tends to point fingers and blame others on things that was wrong, instead of us thinking whether the fault lies in ourselves. Sometimes when things happened, we became defensive and tries to explain ourselves. We seldom take time to think if the problem really lies in others or ourselves.

When we are late for work, what do we say?

"The bus was late."

When there is argument/miscommunication with colleagues and friends, what do we do or say?

"It's her/his fault. He/She should initiate to talk to me/apologised."

Do you realised that we are always finding excuses/explanations to cover up for ourselves? I am no GOD, sometimes I do that too but if all of us can do the 3 step process - STOP, THINK, and SAY/MOVE/DO, maybe we can avoid alot of things from happening in the world.

Thus, before we point our index fingers at others, we have to be aware that there are 3 other fingers pointing back at ourselves.