Who am I in your eyes?

I just came across a very thought intriguing entry here.

Like the blogger said, how often have we in our lives, have thoughts like,

"Who am I to you?"

"Where do I stand?"

"Do I mean anything to you?"

I'm sure it happen often right?

As a human being, we often require words of affirmation from people who we adore or respect. To allow us to know where we stand or who we are to them. We require constant feedback from people, to affirm us, and to give us a sense of security and/or confidence. This can constantly be seen in relationships and even work situation. The intensity or the urge to want to ask this question happens most of the time when there is a change to a situation or the start or end of a situation/event/task.

In relationships, it can be love relationship and even friendship. Example, you had a fight with your girlfriend/boyfriend and you are angry with him/her. Have you ever wonder who you are to him/her? Your friend decided to go out with another friend or do her own things instead of going out with you. Did you ever have the thought that "I am not important to him/her?" Sometimes when we were down, when we needed someone special to be there just for us but she/he didn't. Have you ever wonder...... "Where do I stand?"

Or when you are dating with "the one" and he/she always say how much he/she misses you, etc.... but when you all became girlfriend-boyfriend or even wife-husband, it has reduced significantly or worse off, it never happen again? I'm sure you will begin to wonder.....

"Do he/she really loves me still?"

So much about relationships. How about work? It happens the same too... .... but maybe not as frequent or intense as relationship as some people take work as just a job. I personally think that words of affirmation is important in work as we all want to know how well we have been doing as it can boost our confidence and morale. Unless you know you have not been doing well.... feedback from superiors can create more stress and demoralise you if you are not the type that look at the positive side.

In a nutshell, we all need feedbacks and words of affirmations. We all have the need to feel and be secure. After all, security is the first 2 level in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

Now, think about it. When is the last time you ever say "I love you" or "I miss you" to your loved ones? Not forgetting how about, "Thanks for being there for me." If you can't even remember, I think it is about time to affirm them.

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But on the other hand..... sometimes.... somethings are best unsaid.... and some people make take you for granted if you tend to say alot to them....

what to do? that's life....