About Women, About me.

I remember browsing through a book called  

 "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment"    by Steve Harvey when I was walking through Times Bookstore during one of the days during my Annual Leaves in December 2010.

The title looked interesting and captured my attention, and still is at this point of time. Sometimes, I really wonder, how much do I really understand MEN. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Maybe it is only some species of men that I understand. Sometimes I thought I do, but I guessed I had assumed I did when I didn't. Maybe because humans are no longer simple. Some can no longer be explained using the Psychology that we once knew or studied.

I was browsing through the content page and I saw some interesting topics and I flipped to the page and I could almost relate to what was written. Absolutely. The book also includes the perspective of men with regards to love, relationship and intimacy. Maybe I might just purchase this book when I next visit the bookstore to see if they have any Fengshui Kit.

Anyway, this book was just a random thought that was triggered when I was chatting with Alvin regarding me wanting to get a compass and he suggested me getting a fengshui kit from Harris bookstore. I was thinking to myself what other bookstores there are in Tampines since I don't remember any Harris in Tampines. And Times bookstore in Tampines One came to my mind and thus that book.

And I started googling for the book, and I came across a quote in the book which I totally can relate to, and here it is:

"Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love—it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time or demand. If you are her man, she will talk to you until there just aren’t any more words left to say, encourage you when you’re at rock bottom and think there just isn’t any way out, hold you in her arms when you’re sick, and laugh with you when you’re up. And if you’re her man and that woman loves you—I mean really loves you?—she will shine you up when you’re dusty, encourage you when you’re down, defend you even when she’s not so sure you were right, and hang on your every word, even when you’re not saying anything worth listening to. And no matter what you do, no matter how many times her friends say you’re no good, no matter how many times you slam the door on the relationship, she will give you her very best and then some, and keep right on trying to win over your heart, even when you act like everything she’s done to convince you she’s The One just isn’t good enough.
That’s a woman’s love—it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance. "

"Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment" is a book that is good to read whether you are in a relationship, looking for one or even when you are not.


Reference:
The above quote is extracted from http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/206062.Steve_Harvey 
Picture of the book from http://www.trulyfe.com/book-review/62439-act-like-lady-think-like-man-book-rate-2.html

Men go to cave and women talk - Part 1

In this chapter of "Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus", the author shared that men and women cope with stress differently - Men go to cave and Women talk. Men become "increasingly focused" and "withdrawn" while women become "increasingly overwhelmed" and "emotionally involved".

According to the author, it is important to understand and accept these differences - Men feel better by solving problems while women feel better by talking about their problems. Not doing so, friction is bound to occur in the relationships.

How men cope with stress/ problems
It was mentioned that when a man get upset, he will never talks about what is bothering him and would not burden another person to solve his problem unless his friend's assistance is necessary to solve the problem. Instead, he will become very quiet and goes into his private cave and think about his problem, mulling it over to find a solution. When he has found the solution, he feels much better and comes out of his cave.

But what if he still can't find a solution?
Then he will do something else to forget about the problems, like reading the news or playing a game. By doing so, he can disengage his mind and relax. If his stress is great, then he might engage in more challenging activity like racing his cars, competing in contest or climb a moutain.


How women cope with stress/ problems
When a woman gets upset, or stress, to find relief, she will seek out someone she trusts and then talks in great detail about the problems. When women share their feelings of being overwhelmed, they suddenly feel better.

The author mentioned that when women share their problems with another, it is actually a sign of love and trust and not burden. A woman feels good when she has loving friends who she can share her feelings and problems.


To be continued on how men find relief in the cave, how women react to the cave, how women find relief through talking and how men react to the talking.

Stay tune!

Blog on His and Her Beauty

With an increase interest in beauty care knowledge, I have started a blog to share knowledge and products that I've read up on or used.

The blog is still in process of adding entries. Currently I am busy with my 4000 words group assignment. Maybe will update when I'm taking my breaks during my assignment. =)

Anyway, the beauty blog is here.

Remember, beauty is no longer the word to describe women only.

I've started my first entry on Her World 2008 Beauty Awards. Please click here.