Relationships

A colleague@work was just sharing about "the one" with us.

She said:

"God didn't give us "the one". He gives us "the wisdom" to choose who to be "the one". How can GOD give you the 1 from out of don't know how many billion of people? And what if your "the one" is already someone else wife/husband? That means that someone else husband/wife maybe be married to other people's "the one" (if you get what I mean?). Thus, it is for us to choose our own "the one" instead of saying "God has the one for me". "

In the same conversation, it leads to me realising that I and another colleague have the attraction to the same type of guys:

"Someone who is cool, witty, knowledgeable and charming(I don't mean handsome here but rather some x-factor or charisma). Abit of those bad boys type of character. When they are warm, they can be very warm-hearted. But when they are cold. they can be very cold. Sometimes when they are trying to understand something or working on something, they tends to internalize them and get withdrawn (which may not be related to us, maybe because of work, studies,etc) and they do not want to communicate/explain it out. He wants to find out the solutions and answer on his own and does not want help from others. But when they want to say, they will tell you what is wrong, even without you asking. And this type of guys can be alittle "emotional unstable"... as if they have mood swing or PMS.... These guys tends to think deep and is often quite faithful when they really love someone."

Haha.... both of us just laughed at it when we were describing this type of guy. And as we were taking turns to describe this type of guys... I was like.... " totally agree with you!" and she agrees too. As both of us are communicators, we were puzzled why we like this type of guys. We were saying we were alright if sometimes or once in a while the guy is into his withdrawn world and does not want to tell us what is happening as we respect that he has his own personal space. But on the other hand, when we care and love someone, at the end of the day (please do not take it literally) we would want to know what is going on, even when it is not related to us or whether we can help or not. Thus, sometimes it can drive us crazy when we don't know what is wrong. It is not something subjective but rather something objective. We just want to know what has happened.


But nevertheless, it makes me ponder on what I really want. =)

*Edited*
Of course I still want the one who had swept me off my feet without me realizing it, with his words and actions and the same one who I sat my first 360 degrees roller coaster rides with... ...

... though sometimes u can be little bad-tempered, driving people crazy, "bo chap" and "attitude".... But there is still the other side of you that others may not have seen!

You are WHO you ARE!

=)