找出你的恋爱风格 与 妈妈的感言

以下是从《我报》取出：


爱情面前，你会很自我、很任性，还是很痴情？赶快找出你的恋爱风格吧！

问题：
与好友到夜店狂欢，你喝了几杯后便尿急。如果夜店只
设男女厕所各一间，而你要进的那一间厕所大门紧闭，
你会怎么办？


A. 不管那么多了，直接去隔壁的厕所解决再说。
B. 边急迫地敲门，边说“你快好了吗？我很急！”
C. 忍、忍、忍！忍到里面的人出来。
D. 倒数计时1分钟，1分钟后人没出来就去隔壁厕所。

你的答案是什么呢？


我的答案是 C。


答案分析：
选择A：你的恋爱风格以自由为重，虽然很看重爱情，很在乎对方，但就是无法忍受被束缚的感觉。厌恶被人摆布的你，就算与对方交往了一段时间，还是需要很多个人空间，依旧自我。


选择B：你谈恋爱时很任性，只要是你想要的，你一定会想方设法弄到手。你懂得在适当的时候撒娇，让对方束手无策地被你征服，但太常耍性子会为两人的关系带来不少麻烦。


选择C：你的爱情格言就是“守得云开见月明”，很坚持自我信念的你，如果喜欢上一个人，就会痴痴地等。与你谈恋爱不会怕你变心，但思想太保守和呆板，有时会让对方觉得很无趣。


选择D：你的恋爱风格是“优柔寡断”，谁要和你谈恋爱，最好先与你的家人朋友打好关系，因为他们的任何一句话都可能影响到你。当你的恋人需费很多心力，劝你还是改掉犹豫不决的毛病吧！


我觉得这挺准的。的确当我喜欢上一个人的时后，我就会痴痴地等。哈哈。。。我的思想有时也会保守和呆板些。难怪有时有人会觉得我有些 无聊无趣啦。


不知妈妈是不是担心我这个女儿嫁不出去，刚刚当我在帮我的 “Super Glue Sister” 做 以下的wedding poster时 (wedding poster 以被我用特辑弄得模糊，以免被新朗看到新娘要给他的“惊喜”）

她看了，便问我新郎新娘几岁。当我听了，便知她 将问我什么问题。果然不出我所料，当我回答 “新娘和我一样” 与 “ 新郎三十岁” 时，她变说：

“你的朋友都嫁人了，那你呢？你没有朋友吗 （妈妈指的是男朋友）？如果有的话，要带他回来给我们看。”

我本想开玩笑的回答说： “朋友我有很多，可以从淡宾泥排到马来西亚。” 可是我还是决得不回答可能是个比较明智的选择。


哎呀妈吖，如果你女儿有个两情相愿的朋友，你以为我不想好好谈个恋爱吗？我可是人有心却力不足啊。一个巴掌是拍不响的。只能随缘，走一步，算一步咯。

P.S: 我是从不和妈妈谈儿女私情的事情。

Excitement, happiness and motivation

I'm always excited and motivated to hear the song - 蒲公英的约定 when Alvin logs into MSN (customized function only for special people) =P  This is the song. The first song - that was supposed to send to me but didn't, due to the disrupted network connection on 14 March last year. It was sent halfway. Apparently, it wasn't hearing the song that is making me excited but the fact that he logs in into MSN is making me excited.

Just as I was typing this, i have been hearing the song at least 3 times. This shows that there is definitely something wrong with his network today.But there is nothing concrete that I can do..... so I shall not ask.

And... I am hearing it for the 4th time now....

Opening the door of your heart - Part 1

In Ajahn Brahm's Opening the door of your heart, there is 11 categories that revolve around the cause of happiness:

1. Perfection and guilt
2. Love and committment
3. Fear and Pain
4. Anger and forgiveness
5. Creating happiness
6. Critical problems and their compassionate solutions
7. Wisdom and inner silence
8. The mind and reality
9. Values and spiritual life
10. Freedom and humiity
11. Suffering and letting go

This Part 1 of opening the door of your heart, I'm going to share with you  on Perfection and guilt.

These are a summary of some of the short stories (do read the book if you are really interested):

Perfection and guilt

1.  Two bad bricks
   
   Many time in life, we concentrate so much on our weakness and mistakes. In the story of wall building, there were 2 "bad" bricks that spoils the wall. The monks were ashamed to show the visitors the wall because of these 2 bad bricks. One day, a visitor came across the wall and said it was a nice wall. The monk were surprised and wondered if the visitor was visually impaired that he didn't see the 2 bad bricks? The visitor replied that he did see the 2 bad bricks but he also see the 988 remaining good bricks. The story tries to relate that how often in people end a relationship because of these 2 "bad" bricks; and how people get depressed because all that we can see is all our 2 "bad" bricks. In reality, there are many many more good bricks that we just fail to see. Instead, every time we looked, we focus so much on our mistakes and these mistakes are all that we can see, and "they are all we think they are, so we want to destroy them". And sometimes, we destroy a "very nice wall". "We've got 2 bad bricks but the perfect bricks in each one of us are much, much more than the mistakes." Who knows, the "mistakes" that you started out initially, may become the "unique features" when we stop focusing on them exclusively.
   
   
2. What is done is finished and the idiot's guide to peace of mind
   This story tells us that if we try to look at the work that we have already done instead of focusing on the remaining work that needs to be done, we may understand what it's meant by what is done is finished. But when we focus exclusive on the faults, on the things that need to be fixed, we will never find peace. In this story of garden, when we understand how to find peace in our garden, we will know how to find peace anytime, anywhere, especially the ability to find peace in the garden of our heart, even though we may think how messy the garden of our hearts are, with so much things needed to be done or to be fixed.
   
   
3. Guilt and double guilt
   
   
   
   
   
   
   In this story, it shares that a lady was feeling guilty over the death and accident of 2 persons, which she didn't planned for. She knew that she has to 'let go'. And of course there were many times where people will tell her 'Don't feel guilty'. To her, she felt guilty about feeling guilty; she felt guilty that people are telling her not to feel guilty. So, there was double guilt - guilty over the accident and guilty over guilty. "Our complicated minds work like that."
   Guilt is different from remorse. Guilty is usually a term used in court. Thus, if no one punishes us, we will try to punish ourselves, some way or another. Guilt means "punishment deep in our psyche". The solution for her would not be asking her to forget it and get on with life. Instead, asking her to volunteer in a rehab unit helped her as she was able to help.
   
   
   
4. You are what you were told, treated, believed and became
   In the story, there were 2 class of students - A and B. All the students have same abilities. All of them thought that "A" were the clever ones, and they were treated differently from "B". They were told that they were "Class A" and "Class B" students. At the end, "Class A" performed better than "Class B" where they were supposed to be the same. Thus, because of what they were told, treated and believed, they became.
   
   In another story of the 2 children in the supermarket, the 2 children dropped something in the supermarket. The parent of child A responded "You stupid child!" while the other responded with "That was a stupid thing that you did!" The "stupid child" probably become stupid, while the child that did the stupid thing, probably stopped doing stupid things.
   
   
5. We deserved to be forgiven
   If we focus on the "Class B" for too long, we might become a "Class B" person and that is the reasons why we keep making the same mistakes and creating more guilt. But when we look at the other part of our lives; the other bricks of our wall, we gained another perspective, we deserved to be forgiven.
   
   "The most difficult stage of the journey  out of guilt is convincing ourselves that we deserved to be forgiven" The stories being shared are there to assist us but the final step out of the "prison" can only be made alone by ourselves.
   

Look out for Part 2 of Opening the door of your heart by Ajahn Brahm.

Great Eastern Run 2009

This was one of my worse-prepared run. But it ended not too bad. At least I'm still alive.

Why was it the worse-prepared one?

Firstly, I never train since my last run - Adidas Sundown 2009. Secondly, I only slept at 1+am and woke up at 5am. Lastly, I reached there at almost 7am. That meant that I didn't do any stretching before my run and I didn't managed to take photos before the run, which I usually do. Yeah. I'm a vain pot, if that makes u happy. =P Thank God YY managed to take a few.

This is taken before the race

The crowd

Me and Juat

Yeah!

 I like my backview!

Still quite fresh at our 1st 2km

The women before us

Well, managed to capture these while I was "jogging" back:

And some photos after we arrived at the finishing line:

 

 Juat and Me

Me and Juat

 

 Juat and me again!

 

Yeng Yeng and me

3 of us!

Another one.

Me

Myself

And I!

Our 3rd Great Eastern Run

3, 2, 1

1,2,3

View of City Hall

The "bigger size" gal who came back and was being applaud for her effort. Good try!

 

 Me again....

Now you know I'm "vainpot" LOLX.

Us!

Lifting the finishing point

The great woman pledge

Every 1 card pasted here, GE will donate $1 to a welfare organisation.

The 3 GREAT WOMEN!

On our way in slippers for our usual TRADITIONAL breakfast after the run

3 of us again!

Last but not least, congrats on our 3rd Great Eastern Run:

And many more to come!

YEC Teambuilding

Last Saturday, I went to PA Holiday Flat (Pasir Ris) for my YEC teambuilding.

I was there around 1+pm. Some of them were already there when I arrived with Jeff. Then we had our Nasi Ayam.

The first game was Charades.

I cannot remember what I'm supposed to act. I just know that my team is only left with 30secs or so when it's my turn to "act".

Next was a communication type of game where a shepherd has to guide his sheep back home.

We were all blind-folded, to be lead astray by team 1.

And here we are, being dispersed away... ....

I'm being lead away by Daphne.  Where's my team mate?!?!?!

While waiting for the shepherd to give instructions, the lost sheep make our way to find our own team-mates......

Through our sense of hearing.....

And we were "caught" and ganna separated by our opponent team!!!!

Okay.... and we continued on and I'm the last one to be "lead".

Being left alone in the "Wild" is so dangerous!!!! Especially if I'm blinded!!! LOLX.

Finally reaching home......

And we are done with the sheeps and the shepherd!

Next is some relay thingy, where I've to turn 5 rounds anti-clockwise and 5 rounds clockwise, and then run across the basketball court.

The 1st leg of the relay - 3 legged race

Posing with Aishah

The whole game ended with TEAM 2 winning!!! YEah!!!

Anyway, these are the 2 groups:

Good job for both!! We are all a TEAM, not 2 teams!!! =D

Next is the BBQ... ....

 BBQ pit set up by the guys.

One of the first few times where I no need to help to start the fire.

These are the chicken...

Have you BBQ in the rain? We did... ...

And after some time, it became a rain pour and all of us gathered back after most food are BBQ.

Thanks to some of members' effort.....

After awhile, it is time for our invited guests to go back.... and they are non other than Johnny, Emily and their 2 twin sons!

Bye Bye ... ....

Hugz!

And after that, it was discussion for our workplan for next year.

Some snapshots of my groups:

 

The discussion ended at about 12+ and I reach home about 1am? And bathe and quickly went to sleep because I had to wake up at 5am to go for my run. ZZZzzzzzzz

Anyway, all the photos above are taken by Karen. Thanks!