Tiring Week

This week has been a long week. Been sleeping rather late, (esp. sunday and monday.... was helping someone important with some stuff) and waking up early to work. It was till today that I endured.... forcing myself to stay awake during work was the hardest today after lunch. It was so difficult to keep myself awake while waiting for my client to turn up. But TGIF... I thought I got time to rest. NOT for this week.

After work, I went over to SGH PGAHI..... for a welcome dinner. Didn't get to really eat because we arrived at closed to 7pm when the dinner supposed to be 6 -7 pm. wT and I only managed to grab a few finger food before the introduction starts.

We were introduced to 1 of the 2 core modules that I will be taking this semster. I think I'm gonna have a hell of 6-7 assignments(ranging from 1500 - 5000 words) to do, exlucing 3 on-line quizzes and presentations.

After that, wT and I we went to some prata shop when we arrived at century square. We were all too hungry. lolx....

Anyway, this morning one of my colleagues brought this adidas jacket that we all find it so nice that we all tried wearing it... and I even take photo. We all looked nice in it. My colleagues said I looked nice in it too. I NEVER SAY HOR..... lolx....


Haha.... my colleagues say I take photo with "V" is youthful - I'm the youngest in my whole centre. ;)

I am dozing off while typing this. My dad just came back with chicken wings. Last week, I am unable to eat because of my cheeks. Today, because I was just having no energy to eat them and have to wake up early tomorrow.

Nite all.

The Eiffel Tower

Finally attached the Eiffel Tower Handphone Chain to my G900 (after so many weeks). Thanks H2O for the souvenirs from Paris. She has brought a few and I was to choose 1. And I chose this:


And when I accidently flip to the back of the Eiffel Tower, I saw this:


This so reminded me of someone with initial his name starting with the letter A. =)

Belated Teachers' Day

I made 2 bouquets of Carnation and roses for our 2 lovely Special Education Teachers for Teacher's Day today. It came a little late due to busy schedule at work. But I'm glad that they like it.

Happy Belated Teachers' Day.

Money Not Enough 2

Yesterday, my colleagues and I went to watch "Money Not Enough 2". I got the tickets at $6.50 each because Golden Village Club Member has this privilege on every Tuesdays. It has been 10 years since it's Money Not Enough 1 in 1998. One of my colleague and I was thinking that it should not be called "Money Not Enough 2" but it should be called "Money STILL Not Enough".

I got to agree that all of us enjoyed the show alot. Other than the laughter it brought us most of the time, we also teared. It was so close to our hearts, the hearts of fellow Singaporeans. They brought the thoughts and the feelings of common people into the cinemas. That includes things like, ERPs, increasing cost of living but not our salaries, giving money before rise of something/election, etc.

From the movie, we also saw the social side of society, where people have to fend for themselves. Something that I was getting emotional with, is the greatness of Mother's Love. I remembered that there was a part when the elder son, acted by Hui Ge, who got into problem because of the product that he is MLM-ing.....

He asked the mother,

"If I am no longer the manager, will you look down on me."

The mother replied,

"No matter what happens, you are still my son."

In another scene, the mother was rather upset. Her friends asked her what happened.... she said she is very upset. Her children is borrowing money from her. She added that she is upset not because her children is borrowing money from her but because she cannot help them as much as she wanted as she has no more money. Thus, the friends taught her to go to beg. And she did. She was caught and send to the Police. The children came and pick her and they were all scolding her..... telling her off.... and asking her not to "throw" their "faces"... ... little did they know that she is doing all for their sake.

Next, is the cruelty of life that I am going to talk about. When one grows old and get married, one has to take care of their "new family" - the spouse and the children. Often than not, we forgotten that we were once a child and taken care of by our parents. We try to give the best to our children and yet we forgotten that we were given the best by our parents too. Yet again, this is the cruelty of our society - the sandwich generation. We can see that the mother is willing to sleep next to the toilet and EVEN inside the toilet, to whichever is convenient to her children.

The scene that affecting me the most is when Jack Neo's daughter is involved in an accident and require O- blood type. The only 2 bags were to be used on Jack Neo's mother. Upon knowing, Jack's wife went to the mother-in-law's ICU and wanted to snatch away the blood. Jack's mother upon seeing and hearing, she decided to end her life by removing the ventilator, so that the blood can be used to save her granddaughter.

THIS IS WHAT I CALL GREAT MOTHER LOVE.

Next, I want to talk about how GOOD Vivian Lai is in the movie. I believe that such wife does exist.



This wife of Mark Lee, takes the SHIT of Mark Lee. Vivian Lai helped to cover for Mark when he was caught speeding. And when she was arrested, this UNFAITHFUL husband still yet go and enjoy himself in GEYLANG. Whether he has sex with prostitute or not, it was not shown but I think he did. He went home drunk, with lipstick on his shirt, and perfume smell. A condom fell of from his pants.

To add on to that, Mark threw up on Vivian. He scolded her and told her off, saying that if he comes back, she should consider it good already. He even said she is smelly and asked her to go and bathe before she go and sleep. WTH.....

I remembered 2 scenes very clearly... ...

One scene is outside the subordinate court. Vivian said,

"You know I no need to depend on you. I just want you to care for me."

This line just struck me on what some women wants. They do not need their husband to give them alot of gifts. They just want the care and concern from the husband. That is what all they ask for.


The other scene is when the wife embezzle the company fund for Mark's sake. Yet again, Mark scolded her for being "kaypo", poking her nose into "Man's Business". And asked them to put her into jail. He scolded her for "throwing his face". Mark said that Vivian don't even dare to kill ants or something. How would her have the gut to embezzle money.

Sometimes, guys fail to understand that some gals will go all out to help the one that they love. From Mark, we can also see that sometimes guys do not know how to show their emotions and does not want to show their weakness to the people that they love. To them, they feel that they should be the strong power, to protect the people that they love. And when the loved ones helped them and get into trouble, they feel that they are not protecting the loved ones and got them into trouble. They scold the loved ones..... not because they want to..... but because they do not know to say "sorry" in a better way.

This is what I call GOOD WIFE that GUYS often take for granted.

What I like to highlight here is also the power of family. From Hui Ge's family, we can see that when 1 family working hard together, towards a common goal. One does not need to be rich to be happy. Being together during good and bad times, is already a happiness.

This show, to some, maybe just something to laugh about and forgotten. To me, this will be something for me to ponder for while sometime. Even now, I am still quite effected by the show. Die..... getting more and more emotional nowadays. You all may say this is just a movie. But this protrays the voice of people and the life of people in Singapore today.

Teacher's Day Celebration

Woke up early yesterday to prepare orange wedges, aka orange agar-agar yesterday... ...

Happy Teacher's Day

Thinking about being

加油!

Though you show me the de-motivational posters..... and wanting to print them....

Why not you print this? =)

Dedicating to the owner of the following photo:

加油，加油， 加油！！！

Official Opening of Sales Office of Synergy Dynamics

Today was the official opening of the sales office of Synergy Dyanmics. The located at the west coast recreation centre.

It was nice of them to invite me to the place. Had some nice catch up with Ras, Ray, Kris - Pahang Camp's partner and Wilson - a super old senior in NPCC that I never really talk to in the past.

SD is going to have a campsite in KOTA TINGGI WATERFALL!!!! Has always wanted to go there since my NPCC days... ... maybe one day I shall go there and take a look myself... ...

Anyway, we had a bowling championship today. Boss drew lots and paired us up. I was "paired" up with Wilson. All teams had a male and female but ONLY Rayyan and Kris one is not. KRIS is a guy btw.

Today, my bowling skill was the best ever. Both my game I had score over 100 points. I seldom score more than 100 points when I played in the past. Don't believe you see here:


Wilson is quite a good bowler too... luckily he was my partner. Okay. Soon, it is time to annouce the winner of the 2 games. Guess who won?

It is the Team that has 2 GUYS!!!!! It is so unfair!!!! And my team got 2nd, with a total score of 518 points. =) Wah liew..... we should have given the 1st prize right?

Anyway, I got the BEST FEMALE BOWLER AWARD with 234 points. lolx.

Left early as I was meeting Huihui to buy shoes.... =P

Okay.... gotta go bathe and do my E-LEARNING liao.... ciao....

Respect

"If you want people to respect you, you have first to respect yourself."

"Undo unto others as you would have them undo unto you"

In other words, release all the past, don't hold onto anything but the joy, from everyone, including yourself. Forgive it all and bask in the peacefulness it brings.

*People can talk whatever they want... ... so long I know I am respecting myself and am not doing anything against my conscious.*

Quizzes

Dark Purple

To others, you seem a bit dark, mysterious, and moody. In truth, you are just a very unique person who doesn't care what others think. And you really enjoy your offbeat interests and friends. You've decided that life is about living for yourself - simple as that.

What Color Purple Are You?

What Your These Fireworks Say About You

You are deeply passionate about a few things in your life. Everything else, you couldn't care less about. Your passions tend to hold steady over time. If anything, they intensify. Once you hold on to something (or someone), you don't let go!

The Fireworks Test

You Are a Purple Flower

A purple flower tends to represent success, grace, and elegance. At times, you are faithful like a violet. And other times, you represent luxury, like a wisteria. And more than you wish, you find yourself heartbroken like a lilac.

What Color Flower Are You?

You Should Be a Social Worker

You are deeply caring and empathetic. You are able to take on other people's problems as if they were your own. Sensitive and intuitive, you understand human emotions well. Helping others gives you the most joy in life. You feel like it's your purpose in life. You do best when you: - Have a lot of responsibility - Greatly impact someone's life with your work You would also be a good philanthropist or stay at home parent.

What Should You Be When You Grow Up?

Your Aura is Blue

Spiritual and calm, you tend to live a quiet but enriching life. You are very giving of yourself. And it's hard for you to let go of relationships. The purpose of your life: showing love to other people Famous blues include: Angelina Jolie, the Dali Lama, Oprah Careers for you to try: Psychic, Peace Corps Volunteer, Counselor

What Color Is Your Aura?

Understand a person better using Psychology - Part 3

Welcome to the Part 3 of Understanding a person better using Psychology. In the previous 2 parts, I talked about Id, ego and superego, and Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

Today, I am going to share on Erik Erikson's Psychosocial Development.

There is a total of 8 stages in his Psychosocial Development. He believes that each stage of life is marked by a specific crisis or conflict and that individuals can continue to develop in a normal, healthy manner only if they resolve each crisis successfully.

No.	Crisis	Description
1	Trust vs. Mistrust	Infants learn to trust the environment (if needs are met) or to mistrust it.
2	Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt	Toddlers acquire self-confidence if they learn to regulate their bodies and act independently. If they fail or are labelled as inadequate, they experience shame and doubt.
3	Initiative vs. Guilt	Preschoolers (3-5) acquire new physical and mental skills but must also learn to control their impulses. Unless a good balance is struck, they become either too unruly or too inhibited.
4	Industry vs. Inferiority	Children (6-11) acquire many skills and competencies. If they take pride in these, they acquire high self-esteem. If they compare themselves unfavourably with others, they may develop low self-esteem.
5	Identity vs. Role Confusion	Adolescents must integrate various roles into a consistent self-identity. If they fail to do so, they may experience confusion over who they are.
6	Intimacy vs. Isolation	Young adults must develop the ability to form deep, intimate relationships with others. If they do not, they may become socially or emotionally isolated.
7	Generativity vs. Stagnation	Adults must take an active interest in helping and guiding younger persons. If they do not, they become preoccupied with purely selfish needs.
8	Integrity vs. Despair	In the closing decades of life, individuals ask themselves whether their lives had any meaning. If they can answer yes, they attain a sense of integrity. If they answer no, they experience despair.

Some elaboration extracted From Wikipedia:

Trust and Mistrust

"Erik Erikson proposed that the concept of trust versus mistrust is present throughout an individual's entire life. Therefore if the concept is not addressed, taught and handled properly during infancy (when it is first introduced), the individual may be negatively affected and never fully immerse themselves in the world. For example, a person may hide themselves from the outside world and be unable to form healthy and long-lasting relationships with others, or even themselves. If an individual does not learn to trust themselves, others and the world around them then they may lose the virtue of hope, which is directly linked to this concept. If a person loses their belief in hope they will struggle with overcoming hard times and failures in their lives, and may never fully recover from them. This would prevent them from learning and maturing into a fully-developed person if the concept of trust versus mistrust was improperly learned, understood and used in all aspects of their lives."


Intimacy vs. Isolation
"According to Erik Erikson the young adult stage, Intimacy vs. Isolation, is emphasized around the ages of 19 to 34. At the start of the Intimacy vs. Isolation stage, identity vs. role confusion is coming to an end and it still lingers at the foundation of the stage (Erikson 1950). Young adults are still eager to blend their identities with friends. They want to fit in. When we arrive at stage six we should be prepared for intimacy, a close personal relationship, and isolation, the fact of being alone and separated from others. A balance between intimacy and isolation makes love possible as we must know how to be alone in order to learn to truly love. Having a balanced stage 6 will help tremendously later in the coming stages when unwelcome or unexpected isolation surfaces, for example, the death of a spouse or a loved one (Erikson, Erikson, Kivnick 1986). In stage six, one is ready for commitments, is able to handle real relationships to a certain extent (Erikson 1950), after all, establishing a real relationship takes practice and many of us do not marry our first love. Our ego should also be prepared for rejection, the challenge of break-ups, and isolation, being alone. Erikson believes we are sometimes isolated due to the above. We are afraid of rejection; being turned down, our partners breaking up with us. We are familiar with pain and to some of us rejection is painful, our egos cannot bear the pain. Erikson also argues that "Intimacy has a counterpart: Distantiation: the readiness to isolate and if necessary, to destroy those forces and people whose essence seems dangerous to our own, and whose territory seems to encroach on the extent of one's intimate relations" (1950)."


Thus, using this theory, when we know of someone who is unable to trust people, it could be that the crisis was not resolved when he/she was an infant. And when someone is not able to be intimate with others, could be that his/her role identity was not resolved and he/she has some identity confusion.

Have you know a person better now? =)

More Quizzes

You Are Spaghetti Bolognese

Compared to most people, you are well grounded and down to earth. You have old fashioned values. Your taste tends to favor what's tried and true. You love comfort food. Familiar situations put you at ease. You think that the best cooking comes from your family's kitchen!

What Pasta Dish Are You?

What Your Ideal Wedding Dress Says About You

Your Personal Style: Classic and elegant. You prefer to make a statement with a few quality pieces. Your Ideal Wedding: Traditional and formal, but not tacky. You think the most beautiful weddings are understated. Your Philosophy on Marriage: It's a serious commitment, and the couple entering it should be ready to work for their relationship. Your Perfect Marriage: Is calm, stable, deep, and meaningful.

The Wedding Dress Test

Your German Name is:

Kaethe Hedwig

What's Your German Name?

It's 100% Love and 0% Lust

You and your guy are truly in love, even if that spark seems to be a little dimmer.

Are Your Feelings For Him Lust or Love?

You Are a Boy Shorts Bikini!

You're a sexy girl, but you don't have to let everything hang out to prove it.

What Kind of Bikini Are You?

You'll Find Love Online

Dating in meatspace is way too complicated and time consuming for you You rather find a ton of guys at the click of a button So go on, and have some fun in your online dating adventure Just make sure perfectguy@mrright.com is who he says he is

Where Will You Find Your Dream Guy?

You Are Right Brained In Love

Bit of a drama queen Peacemaker, first to end a fight Good at thinking up creative dates Tend to fall in love and get hurt easily Going with your gut instead of your head Empathetic and caring, sometimes to a fault Good at recognizing patterns in relationships Been in love many times, perhaps too many to count Wildly passionate and intense when falling in love Spontaneous with relationships, going with the flow Overly visual - can play back past dates like movies in your mind Roses, love poems, and stuffed animals are a good start to winning your heart

Are You a Right Brained or Left Brained Woman in Love?

You Would Choose Love

Money may buy a little happiness, but not the happiness of true love. You rather have a true soulmate than a private jet. And while many people may claim they would choose love too... You're one of the few who would really do it.

Would You Choose Love or Money?

You Are 78% Addicted to the Internet

In your opinion, life without the internet is hardly worth living. Could be, but you probably need a bit more fresh air and sunshine to think clearly.

Are You Addicted to the Internet?

Your Dating Purity Score: 89%

You are an innocent dater. You're either lacking in dating experience or only have had long term relationships. Either way, there's still plenty of fish in the sea out there for you to sample!

Dating Purity Test