Materialistic and Happiness

In the middle of the night... what else is there but to ponder on life..... *~thinking about being~*

I was just chatting with SY this late afternoon and we starting talking on MATERIALISTIC. This is a huge word to discuss about. According to dictionary.com, materialistic means a person who is markedly more concerned with material things than with spiritual, intellectual, or cultural values. These people believe in the Philosophy that physical matter is the only reality and that everything, including thought, feeling, mind, and will, can be explained in terms of matter and physical phenomena.

This topic came about when we started talking about how some people pursue physical materials more than other areas in life, which affect the qualities that they look for in their partners. I guess some people will want their partners to have cars to drive them around, pay for all their expenses when they are together and have a nice big apartment when they get married. But is it all that important?

Well, I wouldn't deny that the above will be like a dream comes true for all gals but it isn't the priority some gals look for, at least it is not the main MUST have quality/condition. There are more important things to just money and more money. But of course the old saying always goes,

“钱不是万能的。可是没有钱却是万万不能。”

I guess the above is especially true for people who stays in Singapore where everything rises except PAY RAISE.

Back to the discussion... .... I personally feels that (note that I use feels rather than think shows that I am more a feeling person than a thinking person) there must be something that is above all the materials that makes your partner YOUR PARTNER. If relationship(that includes friendship) can use money for trading/exchange, then what makes it different from business? I think not.

Like I used to tell SY and still is. In relationship and friendship, there shouldn't be mentioning of things like "worth it or not". If it does, the relationship and friendship is not pure as you weight it with something that is tangible, which often than not, relationship is not. How can you weigh a relationship/friendship? And by what basis? And who is to judge whether a r/s is "worthy" or not? Something to sleep on tonight for all......

I side-track again.... did I? Anyway, what I am trying to say is, there is something more important than material matters. To me, I think it is HAPPINESS. Once you are happy, you are willing to compromise in other areas. Take for e.g. you are happy working in your workplace, you don't mind doing abit more, cause it makes you happy! And these is happiness from within!

I don't deny that a person can get "happiness" from materials matter but I guess it is just external. You are happy because people envy you for having that expensive handbag, eating in posh restaurant and sitting in expensive cars. But at then end of the day.... are you really really happy?

To me (again?), happiness is to be content grateful with what you have and know what you want. And of course to weigh what you can achieve to the reality. Do remember, money do inflate. Bags do torn and you have to throw it away one day, whether you like it or not. Friendship and r/s goes a long way if it started with no obligations......

Sometimes, we just have to think back..... what are we chasing? Why are we chasing? Just to boose our ego? Something that is so hard to swallow? Something to think about. I don't know what I am writing already. Its 1.39am in the morning.....

Anyway to end off, big cars, big house and big restaurant isn't that happiness.

What do you think of walking home with someone/someone sitting beside you in 1 hr bus journey, cosy home and home cook food?

Sounds not bad either right?

If you are still pondering, try out this game that can be found at my past entry here:
Happiness - Is it so hard to achieve?

Good night!